Wednesday, April 29, 2015

What to Do When Your View of Success Changes

Mis queridos- 

It's been a while since I wrote out something, and thought I'd update where I am in my life.

I have recently been feeling at a crossroads, stuck between doing what I thought I loved and starting out on a new path. It is such a strange feeling realizing that there really is something else out there, that many of our lives are ripe with opportunities that we many times do not notice.
These past few months have been so amazingly abundant with new job opportunities, friends, love interests, and most importantly dreams. As I complete more and more goals that I thought were impossible, my dreams keep growing and I am finally able to see myself really becoming that which I only fantasized about before.

But what about when that fantasy no longer applies to your life anymore?

Take a step back to survey your life.
Every experience allows us to grow and change our views about the world we live in. New goals were created by a new way of thinking, a new person. Get intimate with that person- what values does he/she have? What kinds of things does he/she most enjoy? When we are honest with ourselves about who we are today, it makes it a lot easier to accept the transition and move easily in a new direction.

Take out the trash.
This is metaphoric too. The more that I dedicate myself to improving my life and relationships with others, so much stuff comes up seemingly from nowhere. My room starts to feel cluttered. Relationships that once served me start to feel stagnant or out of sync.

This new change is a wonderful time to get out those old patterns and let go of what no longer serves you in order to make room for the new. Physically cleaning my room- opening old storage drawers and just throwing away bags of old papers, clothes, and trinkets I don't need- is so therapeutic. Afterward, my spirit feels lighter. Even though it can be hard sometimes, sometimes you just gotta cut the crap and do it. For yourself.

Explore new hobbies.
I have found that my life transitions were always led by a change in tastes. All of a sudden I get so excited about this new job opportunity or reading this new book and it takes me on this journey that ends with a great lesson. Allow yourself to get caught up in a whirlwind of joy- it may be as simple as starting a short meditation ritual everyday, or taking yourself out to lunch twice a week at your favorite café. "Follow your bliss" is probably some of the best advice that I have gotten recently, and when I allowed myself to get caught up in what I loved to do, I woke up six months later feeling like a completely different (awesome) person.

Work hard.
This may seem obvious, but when we transition into a new life, it is easy to start dawdling in random shit that doesn't mean anything, like playing mahjong online for hours. Whoops. This just puts you back in the trap of going back to your old life because the new one seems like it has no promise. If you don't know where to start, pick up that book that you've been meaning to read. Take a day to apply on a whim to a bunch of jobs. Go travel your local neighborhood, city, country, or the world! Get out of your comfort zone and start working and exploring like the person that you want to be, not the person you are today.

Buena Suerte

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